“Isn’t this a beautiful day? I never dreamed we would make it to Saturn!”
“Saturn really is gorgeous. Let’s get started building our Starbucks franchise! It’s sure to be a hit with interstellar travelers.”
But what happens when we are stuck in a pattern with someone we speak with frequently? What happens when we recognize “When I say this, she may feel defensive,” consciously adjust our intention, do our very best not to be adversarial, and still get a defensive response?