Not alone.

Last week when I was out of town for a few days, I visited a gym. This was a small gym in a rec center, like you may find in a pretty good hotel. I had been there about 30 minutes when a woman came in, settled into a corner, and got on her phone. …

Just be early.

If you’re leading a meeting that starts at 9, get there with twice as much time as you think you’ll need to prepare.   You’ll get lost, the tech will fail, they’ll change your room, the tech will fail, someone will knock over an urn of coffee in the corner, the tech will definitely fail. …

Jared, the waiter with personal power

Recently I was in Pittsburgh for work (nice city!), and one night our team had dinner at the restaurant in our hotel. Our waiter, Jared, transformed the evening.   He greeted us and made some small talk, like servers often do. Then he told us: “You are my only table tonight, and I’ve been given …

Surprise!

I prefer not to think before speaking; I like surprises.   I saw this on a T-shirt a woman was wearing at the mall, and of course I had to grab my phone and jot it down before I forgot.   It made me laugh—I imagined her talking, then her eyes widening as she heard …

What are my hands doing? Have they ever done this before?

We’ve all had that feeling.   I don’t know what to do with my hands.   We use our hands naturally, effortlessly, day in and day out, but certain situations make us suddenly acutely aware of them. What are they doing out there, flopping around? What have I ever done with them in the past …

Say your name say your name

One of the most common things we do when meeting new people is say our own name. “Hi, nice to meet you! I’m Angie Flynn-McIver.”  Happens all the time.   Maybe because our names are so familiar to us, we’re not always great at remembering that the person we’re talking to has never heard it …

GOAL!

First, let me say that I don’t know much about soccer. I enjoy watching it every four years, but to say that I’m a casual fan is an overstatement.   But I was watching the US women’s team in the final against the Netherlands, and the role of the goalkeeper struck me. Not the pressure, …

I’m getting emotional

Sometimes a conversation or even a presentation can make us emotional—that code word for teary or choked up. It can happen for a lot of reasons; sometimes we know it’s coming and sometimes it blindsides us.   What can you do? Your emotions help us understand who you are. Knowing what moves you so deeply …

What is your goal in service of?

I love to read. My family will tell you that I’ve always got at least two books going, and I keep a running list of what I’ve read. I met a woman yesterday who set herself a goal last August to read 100 books in a year, and she is up to 95 now. I …

The unfriendliest face in the room

What do you do when you’re giving a talk or a presentation, and your eyes fall on someone whose expression seems to say, “This is just the worst. Why am I here?” This has happened to me a few times, most recently two weeks ago. The effect was exacerbated by the fact that the group …

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