“…To Make You Feel Special”

Recently I was chatting with a friend about intention (that’s just how I roll). She shared that she had spoken recently with a man whose job as an interviewer means he’s always talking to new people. His goal with each interview is “to make the other person feel special.” I just love this! What if …

What Do You Do Best?

At any given moment, we can read about/sign up for a course/commit to working at whatever we think is going to make us “better.” Want to get fitter? Read more? Write that novel? Start your own side hustle? Meditate daily? The world is ready to point out how you can improve. I’m curious about what …

Who Needs to Hear You?

A question I get a lot when coaching public speaking is: How do I reach everyone in my audience? What can I do to make sure every single person receives my message? Short answer: You can’t do it. Even in a small group, everyone there has different priorities, interests, and backgrounds. If you try to …

The Myth of Multitasking

The myth of multitasking is that we can do more than one thing at a time. In fact, when you’re “multitasking,” you’re rapidly switching back and forth between tasks. Similar to the principle in physics that two objects can’t occupy the same space at the same time, we can’t focus on multiple tasks simultaneously. And …

Suspending Certainty

Real dialogue is where two or more people become willing to suspend their certainty in each other’s presence. (David Bohm) What does this quote make you think or feel?  When I think about “suspending certainty,” I feel a little uneasy. Certainty feels great! I can look around and find other people who share my certainty—that’s …

What Spock Tells Us About Preparing

“The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few, or the one.” Spock, the rational thinker, makes decisions based on the greater good. Who will benefit? One individual, or many? A moment may come when you need to start preparing for a speech, presentation, meeting, or event. You won’t feel like it. You may …

A Peek Behind the Recording Booth Curtain

I’m really excited to announce that the audiobook version of Before You Say Anything: How to Have Better Conversations, Love Public Speaking, and Finally Know What to Do with Your Hands is available now! Huge thank you to The Talking Book, an audiobook producing company located right here in Asheville. I had a terrific experience with them, and …

To Have Presence…

To have presence, be present. Be truly present with the experience, with the people, with however you’re feeling about it. Instead of trying to remember what you practiced, connect with the people in the audience.Instead of loading your slides with information, invite questions.Instead of rushing to prove your point, demonstrate curiosity. Presence is demanding. It’s …

“I Just Want to Tell You That I Can Be an Oversharer…”

Long-time friend and blog reader Josh got in touch last week, looking for some advice. He told me: I have an interview for a position that would be really…prestigious.  I’m wondering if you have any tips for avoiding my biggest interview bugaboo – “oversharing.” Ah! This is pretty common, especially with more extroverted folks. The adrenaline of the interview …

Do You Have a November Resolution? I Have a Suggestion.

What does it mean to be a good public speaker? Does it mean that you’re not horribly nervous? That you feel prepared? That your audience truly connects with your message? Or D, all of the above? The Public Speaking Catalyst is happening again, and this is a terrific way to promise yourself you’ll feel confident, …

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