There’s a moment right before you say something. A moment when you’re drawing in breath to speak, when you can alter the course of what’s coming next. In that moment, where are you? What are you thinking about?
Are you two steps down the road of the discussion you’re having, trying to win an argument or prove that you’re right? Are you already conceding the point that you know you really believe in? In that moment, what do you want to happen next?
That breath, that impulse is a built-in check on your intention. What can you create if you take just that moment and decide on a deliberate path forward? What happens if you steer away from your default intention and choose something else?